This evening I read a story called “The Invisible Child (Näkymätön Lapsi)” by Tove Jansson to my kids as a bedtime story. It was a beautiful story about a little girl who became invisible because her aunt, who took care of her, was very cold and ironic towards her. Because of this, she became very shy, and in the end, physically invisible and mute. The aunt gave the girl away after she became invisible, fortunately to a nice and loving family. It was the unconditional love that made the little girl come back piece by piece, physically and mentally.
It was a beautiful reminder of the power of words and the importance of being able, and allowed to, show feelings. The good ones and the bad ones. The story reminded how beautiful words and thoughts makes us blossom like a flower, and how ugly and disrespectful words makes us shrink and loose our identity, making us become invisible and voiceless. The message of the story was that we should all be accepted and cherished the way we are.
For example, we are all allowed to be angry. What makes a difference is how others and yourself react to that anger. If you get angry with a child who is angry, the only thing that comes out of the situation is more anger and confusion. But if you listen and accept the child’s anger, you have thepower of transforming that anger into calmness and comfort, and raise an emotionally balanced and strong human being who will blossom and make everyone around them blossom too.
Speaking nicely to other people is important, but speaking nicely to yourself first is crucial! Why? Because if you speak badly about yourself to yourself you will never be able to speak nicely to others. Meditating and connecting with the beautiful feelings in the center of your heart daily (even many times a day) will help you stay connected with your true self and speak from the heart to yourself and to others. Find the feelings of love, joy, and gratitude in the center of your heart and strive to live according to them.